Thanks for that link, Dave -- it's a very good article. Victoria Price's comment sums it up, for me:
Originally Posted by dave hartley
until that moment, I hadn't really understood the degree to which my 78-year-old father's sexuality, whatever it might be, had become public property to be discussed, analyzed, bandied about, as one might share a recipe or chat about the weather. I found it a discomforting revelation.And Roddy McDowall comes off (again) as really admirable: "What we don't know," Roddy mused, "is what sex meant to him. If we don't know that, we don't know anything."