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Jeremy Wallace
09-05-2006, 01:02 PM
Normally, in the work place, I am almost unapproachable. I get aggravated very easily and sometimes I get very angry at people. Most (if not all) of these people do not deserve the cold shoulder I give them. Occassionaly, this behavior follows me out of work and into the public. I make fun of people behind their backs, nothing maliscious just observational humor. But lately I have felt horrible after because of my behavior.

I also get enraged very quickly with strangers. I never yell at them or threaten them. I just mumble to myself and get myself worked up real bad. It can't be good for my health.

Should I change my ways?

Christoffer S
09-05-2006, 01:27 PM
No.

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Todd J
09-05-2006, 01:30 PM
I do the same thing. I work with retards and I hate people I dont know.

Frank Estrada
09-05-2006, 01:32 PM
I hate practically everyone.

Scott Ruhl
09-05-2006, 01:32 PM
I do the same thing. I work with retards and I hate people I dont know.


Me too.

William R.
09-05-2006, 01:34 PM
I never make fun of people behind their back, but I'm knowingly an asshole a lot of the time to their face. I'm just not a people person. I can't explain it, as there are a lot of people I'm really nice too, complete strangers, but some I just go into dick mode. I usually make up my mind within two words out of your mouth whether I like you or not and the decision usually sticks. I suppose I don't snap until provoked, but I get provoked too easily. I'm usually quiet until I'm pressed for conversation which seems to happen quite a bit.

I never felt bad about it as I do truly feel a lot of people I deal with on a daily basis are shitheads, so that's that. It's obvious if it's taking it's toll on you mentally that there is a problem and you should definitely try to fix it, Jeremy. I can't really give you any suggestions, I know my attitude is different depending on my environment. Surrounded by rednecks and little tough guys I get to be confrontational, surrounded by easy going and kind people, I'm all good. There's therapy, but I'm not really a firm believer in that at all. There's finding a new job as it seems that perhaps that may be where the root of the problem stems...

John White
09-05-2006, 01:46 PM
I work in a people person world where my colleagues are all concerned with feelings and behaving compassionately. These things matter to me but I rather enjoy pricking the bubble of other people's sympathetic pretensions. I suppose this is ok when people know they can take the piss out of yourself too but when it becomes malicious then the sign is you should do something else or lighten up. It's very touchy feely but who we are is wrapped up with who we spend time with and if we don't like those people it's a short step to not liking yourself.
However if your job doesn't require any social skills then just be sarcastic, surf porn in the companies time and pretend everyone else is an idiot. After all you only need to do this for 40 years or so and then you can retire as long as they don't sack you :D

Josh S
09-05-2006, 02:05 PM
I'm knowingly an asshole a lot of the time to their face. I'm just not a people person. I can't explain it, as there are a lot of people I'm really nice too, complete strangers, but some I just go into dick mode. I usually make up my mind within two words out of your mouth whether I like you or not and the decision usually sticks.

Same here. Although, I tend to act like a dick to people I like too. I get that shit from my dad and hate it. Not because I mind being an ass, but because when I really do dislike somebody alot of the time they think I'm just messing around.

Jeremy Wallace
09-05-2006, 02:06 PM
I am not sure if it is a problem or not. But I know I suddenly feel remorse right after I make fun of someone. I usually say to myself, "Hmmm, they did not deserve that ignorant thought."

I wish I could live free and easy. No stress. No sudden enragement. No mean thoughts.

Life is too short to be so hateful...right?

Jason S
09-05-2006, 02:08 PM
I also get enraged very quickly with strangers. I never yell at them or threaten them. I just mumble to myself and get myself worked up real bad. It can't be good for my health.

Should I change my ways?

I kinda do the same thing with asshole strangers. It's not good for you.

My work is a mix of some cool people, good folks and a group of hardcore retards. It's amazing hard to deal with these retards and see no reason why I should. So it's the icy cold shoulder......

Don't make fun of strangers, make fun of people you know.....

William R.
09-05-2006, 02:15 PM
Life is too short to be so hateful...right?

That's what they say, but there's yin and yang. Some say you can't love if you can't hate, others say hating is a waste of time, blah blah blah...

It's what works for you. If it's taking a toll on you then I believe there may be an issue. Maybe it's just the making fun of random people thing that has you down. Belittling others shouldn't be a crutch to make yourself feel better. Some people are just easy targets. Like Swedish Joe.


Same here. Although, I tend to act like a dick to people I like too. I get that shit from my dad and hate it. Not because I mind being an ass, but because when I really do dislike somebody alot of the time they think I'm just messing around.

Are you too sarcastic in tone? I'm sarcastic with people I like. I take the piss out of them. People I don't like I straight up make sure they know it. That way there's no misunderstanding and they leave me alone. I did notice that down here in the South of North Carolina people don't pick up on you being a dick as much. They just think your joking around and they continue the conversation. There's this kid who's a sarcastic ass to everyone at his job and it's rarely picked up on at all. It's mind blowing. I keep waiting for someone to hit him, but they never do.

Don Guarisco
09-05-2006, 02:17 PM
Well, warning sign #1 is that the anger is following you out of the workplace. Warning sign #2 is that it is weighing on your conscience. I'm no genius-level giver of advice but I have learned that holding on to anger is ultimately poisonous and the more you can let minor annoyances go, the better you will feel.

And Jay is right - making fun of strangers is bad news. It can come back to haunt you because you never know when your target will cross paths with you again.

Jeremy Wallace
09-05-2006, 02:17 PM
I kinda do the same thing with asshole strangers. It's not good for you.

My work is a mix of some cool people, good folks and a group of hardcore retards. It's amazing hard to deal with these retards and see no reason why I should. So it's the icy cold shoulder......

Don't make fun of strangers, make fun of people you know.....


I do that as well. And like I said, I am never mean spirited when I make fun of someone. For example, there is a guy at my work who looks EXACTLY like Jar Jar Binks. Now, I know he has NO idea who Jar Jar is so once in a while I will say, "Hey there Jar Jar!". He usually will laugh and walk away and later ask me why I call him Jar Jar. I just say "Just because."

But then I feel bad later for calling him Jar Jar.

This morning I was getting fuel. A lady pulled up to the pump next to me and got out of her car smoking a cig. She continued smoking while she pumped. Then she threw her lit cig towards my car! I was infuriated! But once again I did not say anything. I just got all fired-up and kept it to myself. I am not a confortational person.

William R.
09-05-2006, 02:20 PM
But then I feel bad later for calling him Jar Jar.

Dude. That's fucked up.


This morning I was getting fuel. A lady pulled up to the pump next to me and got out of her car smoking a cig. She continued smoking while she pumped. Then she threw her lit cig towards my car! I was infuriated! But once again I did not say anything. I just got all fired-up and kept it to myself. I am not a confortational person.

You shouldn't of kept that in. That's the kind of stupidity that needs to be punished by a higher power. Like Horace or The mighty hand of Wallace.

Jeremy Wallace
09-05-2006, 02:24 PM
Dude. That's fucked up.

Is it fucked up that I felt bad? or fucked up that I called him Jar Jar?



You shouldn't of kept that in. That's the kind of stupidity that needs to be punished by a higher power. Like Horace or The mighty hand of Wallace.


I was SCREAMING at her from inside my car with the windows rolled up. That made me feel better.

Josh S
09-05-2006, 02:30 PM
Are you too sarcastic in tone? I'm sarcastic with people I like. I take the piss out of them. People I don't like I straight up make sure they know it. That way there's no misunderstanding and they leave me alone. I did notice that down here in the South of North Carolina people don't pick up on you being a dick as much. They just think your joking around and they continue the conversation. There's this kid who's a sarcastic ass to everyone at his job and it's rarely picked up on at all. It's mind blowing. I keep waiting for someone to hit him, but they never do.

It seems like everybody but the "target" picks up on it.

William R.
09-05-2006, 02:30 PM
I was SCREAMING at her from inside my car with the windows rolled up. That made me feel better.

Have you tried listening to aggressive music for some release, like Barry Manilow?

Jason S
09-05-2006, 02:30 PM
Calling that dude Jar Jar is indeed fucked up. Tell your buddies a guy at work looks like Jar Jar and leave it at that!

I'm not confrontational either and it does fuck me up. People can be very rude and it drives me insane. I've chilled a bit and try to let it go but it can be difficult.

Lewis G.
09-05-2006, 02:31 PM
Dont feel guilty, I have lost all patience for assholes a long time ago. As for people you know, they obviously know you also so its not a big problem. I have made fun of people all my life and I can make fun of myself too(the most important part), if people cant deal with this, they usually are people I wouldnt wanna to be friends with anyways.

Jeremy Wallace
09-05-2006, 02:35 PM
Calling that dude Jar Jar is indeed fucked up. Tell your buddies a guy at work looks like Jar Jar and leave it at that!

I'm not confrontational either and it does fuck me up. People can be very rude and it drives me insane. I've chilled a bit and try to let it go but it can be difficult.


Does it make a difference if I tell you that the dude I call 'Jar Jar' is sort of an asshole to others? Not to me...but to other people.


Will - If I listened to Manilow I would have choked her.

William R.
09-05-2006, 02:40 PM
Does it make a difference if I tell you that the dude I call 'Jar Jar' is sort of an asshole to others? Not to me...but to other people.

Jar Jar is just a low blow for anyone. Hideous festering boil from beyond the Crab Nebula would be kinder.


Will - If I listened to Manilow I would have choked her.

Hence, the release. :D

Jeremy Wallace
09-05-2006, 02:42 PM
Man... I am an asshole. Now I feel horrible.

Jason S
09-05-2006, 02:42 PM
MMM that helps a little bit, but he doesnt know you are goofing on him. Now if you call him Jar Jar while he's being a dick to someone that makes you a hero.

Jeremy Wallace
09-05-2006, 02:48 PM
As I look around the room I work in I have realized that I have a nickname for everyone I work with.

1. Lloyd Christmas
2. Bob Zombie
3. Jay Dangle
4. Jar-Jar
5. Chong
6. Humpty Dumpty
7. Dan Connor
8. Sponge Bob
9. Stinky McGee
10. Dumb-Dumb

I am a terrible person!

William R.
09-05-2006, 02:51 PM
What do they call you? Mudflaps McGee?

Jeremy Wallace
09-05-2006, 02:53 PM
No. They call me "Skirt". Because of my Scottish heritage.

I wish they would call me Mudflaps! What does that mean? Am I missing something?

Jason S
09-05-2006, 02:58 PM
Jeremy one thing that helped me was going to Japan. Those fuckers are polite as hell and non-confrontational. It was so nice. However I was fucking enraged after being back in the States for 8 minutes.

Lewis G.
09-05-2006, 02:59 PM
As I look around the room I work in I have realized that I have a nickname for everyone I work with.

1. Lloyd Christmas
2. Bob Zombie
3. Jay Dangle
4. Jar-Jar
5. Chong
6. Humpty Dumpty
7. Dan Connor
8. Sponge Bob
9. Stinky McGee
10. Dumb-Dumb

I am a terrible person!

C'mon Jeremy, dont tell me you really think you are a terrible person! You just are a bit ironic, like to have fun, and have a lot of popular culture knowledge so you just give em people nicknames.

Damn, I do the same at work, I currently have the pleasure to work with

1. the Bigfoot/Yeti (this one I should be ashamed cuz its my secretary, but she deserves it until she shaves that beard of hers)
2. Pancherello
3. the retard
4. Sepultura
5. Junior rapist
6.The kid
7. Cobra commander

All the names were given by the foreman or me, and the worst ones are the ones we use between each other but those change a lot.

William R.
09-05-2006, 03:00 PM
No. They call me "Skirt". Because of my Scottish heritage.

Skirt? You sure they're not calling you a bitch? Man, your workplace sounds heated with animosity.


I wish they would call me Mudflaps! What does that mean? Am I missing something?

I believe it has something to do with the labia. It rolls off the tongue.

Jeremy Wallace
09-05-2006, 03:02 PM
I really think the rage is stemming from being so stressed out lately. Maybe the name calling is out of hand but I feel as if I really do not mean anything ignorant. I am just verbalizing my observations. No excuse...I know.

Jeremy Wallace
09-05-2006, 03:03 PM
Skirt? You sure they're not calling you a bitch? Man, your workplace sounds heated with animosity.



I believe it has something to do with the labia. It rolls off the tongue.


They could be. LOL

Ahhhhhhh...around here we call a mullet mudflaps. That is why I was abit confused.

Jeremy Wallace
09-05-2006, 03:06 PM
C'mon Jeremy, dont tell me you really think you are a terrible person! You just are a bit ironic, like to have fun, and have a lot of popular culture knowledge so you just give em people nicknames.

Damn, I do the same at work, I currently have the pleasure to work with

1. the Bigfoot/Yeti (this one I should be ashamed cuz its my secretary, but she deserves it until she shaves that beard of hers)
2. Pancherello
3. the retard
4. Sepultura
5. Junior rapist
6.The kid
7. Cobra commander

All the names were given by the foreman or me, and the worst ones are the ones we use between each other but those change a lot.

Thanks Lewis. And to quote your signature..."It is the tv's fault..."

Jeremy Wallace
09-05-2006, 03:14 PM
Okay here is the latest thing I said that made me feel bad.

We have a guy here (he is a friend) that has the nickname "The Weasel". He has had that nickname way before I started working here. Anyway, Weasel was doing triathalons until he broke his foot here at work. Well, the bone in his foot is not responding and Weasel made the comment that if it does not start growing back that he would be on crutches forever. Then he said that he would rather have them cut off his foot than be on crutches for the rest of his life. Now apparently, amputation is a REAL option.
I asked him that if they did cut off his foot could I have it for a key chain cuz I heard that Weasel's feet were good luck. He laughed. But did I hurt his feelings? I was just goofing.

Jason S
09-05-2006, 03:17 PM
That's sick, but perfectly acceptable.

Josh S
09-05-2006, 04:31 PM
Okay here is the latest thing I said that made me feel bad.

We have a guy here (he is a friend) that has the nickname "The Weasel". He has had that nickname way before I started working here. Anyway, Weasel was doing triathalons until he broke his foot here at work. Well, the bone in his foot is not responding and Weasel made the comment that if it does not start growing back that he would be on crutches forever. Then he said that he would rather have them cut off his foot than be on crutches for the rest of his life. Now apparently, amputation is a REAL option.
I asked him that if they did cut off his foot could I have it for a key chain cuz I heard that Weasel's feet were good luck. He laughed. But did I hurt his feelings? I was just goofing.


There's nothing wrong with that, assuming he doesn't mind the nickname.

Alli R
09-05-2006, 04:34 PM
I have no problem in being a bitch. I have learned to control it a bit. I work at a used record store and there are some people you just want to rip apart. We usually just wait till they leave to do that. There is one customer that comes in and he's really annoying and creepy. I have threatened him and even got customers to threaten him. I picture him one day coming back and stabbing me but whatever.

Josh S
09-05-2006, 04:38 PM
I have no problem in being a bitch. I have learned to control it a bit. I work at a used record store and there are some people you just want to rip apart. We usually just wait till they leave to do that. There is one customer that comes in and he's really annoying and creepy. I have threatened him and even got customers to threaten him. I picture him one day coming back and stabbing me but whatever.


For what it's worth I think record store employees should be bitchy to customers. It adds to the charm. That is, of course, assuming you work at a mom&pop shop. If you work at Replay or something you need to "work on your people skills".

I'm half-kidding.

Bill Pissott
09-05-2006, 04:44 PM
Should I change my ways?


I think you're really a good guy Jeremy. I wouldn't sweat it. Sometimes the workplace just brings out the worst in people.

Me? I'm overly nice. Almost too nice and I've found out that when dealing with a less then tolerable person in work, that's it's better to be nice to them no matter what because it drives them even more crazy then if you insult or go after them. One person in the office is always looking for an argument and he'll come at me with things I know he's saying but doesn't really believe only because he is looking to get a rise or reaction out of me. When I laugh it off, it absolutely bugs the shit out of him. I don't give him the satisfaction. It's a great weapon :)

Jeremy Wallace
09-05-2006, 04:46 PM
I think you're really a good guy Jeremy. I wouldn't sweat it. Sometimes the workplace just brings out the worst in people.

Me? I'm overly nice. Almost too nice and I've found out that when dealing with a less then tolerable person in work, that's it's better to be nice to them no matter what because it drives them even more crazy then if you insult or go after them. One person in the office is always looking for an argument and he'll come at me with things I know he's saying but doesn't really believe only because he is looking to get a rise or reaction out of me. When I laugh it off, it absolutely bugs the shit out of him. I don't give him the satisfaction. It's a great weapon :)


Thanks Bill. I appreciate that very much.

Alli R
09-05-2006, 05:16 PM
For what it's worth I think record store employees should be bitchy to customers. It adds to the charm. That is, of course, assuming you work at a mom&pop shop. If you work at Replay or something you need to "work on your people skills".

I'm half-kidding.

I could never do the chain store thing. We have vinyl and 8-tracks. How cool is that. :)

Ray Kanne
09-05-2006, 05:40 PM
I am not sure if it is a problem or not. But I know I suddenly feel remorse right after I make fun of someone. I usually say to myself, "Hmmm, they did not deserve that ignorant thought."

I wish I could live free and easy. No stress. No sudden enragement. No mean thoughts.

Life is too short to be so hateful...right?
Yes it is. There's nothing wrong with being ignorant of others you don't know but hating them can't be good. Your just now experiencing the backlash of your ways. I know people who have gone around hating like this for years, hell I used to do it myself when I was a teenager. It can work just fine for years but suddenly the conscience will kick in. If this hatred has gone on for way too long the conscience thing can be torture. Mellow up a bit. it's not like you have to be supernice to everyone or anything; just don't smack 'em
in the face with insults every time they approach you is all.

Ray Kanne
09-05-2006, 05:47 PM
I am not sure if it is a problem or not. But I know I suddenly feel remorse right after I make fun of someone. I usually say to myself, "Hmmm, they did not deserve that ignorant thought."

I wish I could live free and easy. No stress. No sudden enragement. No mean thoughts.

Life is too short to be so hateful...right?
Yes it is. There's nothing wrong with being ignorant of other poeple you don't know, however hating them can't really be good. You're just now experiencing the backlash of your ways so to speak. I know people who have gone around hating people like this for years and I used to do it myself when I was a teenager. It can work just fine for years but suddenly your conscience kicks in. If this hatred has gone on too long the bad conscience can be torture. Mellow up a bit man, it's not like you have to be supernice to everyone or anything; just don't smack 'em
in the face with insults every time they approach you is all.
You can be a bit bitchy as long as you show people you're only kidding( even when you're not).
I joke around with every customer that comes in when I'm at work, (I need to do this so I don't get bored and start hurting people) telling them wich movies to buy/rent or asking them what kind of spaghetti they like or commenting on their stupid last names etc. Most people are in on the joke, some even throw comebacks, other people get mad, embarassed or both. Believe it or not this kidding around and suggestive sales pistch stuff keeps me from overheating and start yelling at people without reason. Try it.

Shaun C
09-05-2006, 05:47 PM
We have all been there, with frustrations and anger with the human race, but I find it is a huge waste of potential energy, and likely to encourage a stroke and other stressfull realated illnessess later on in life. Sounds like some people here need to start yoga or find other ways to meditate. I think i,m much more calmer with people as I get older, though I hate people who walk slow in front of me in the city, as I'm a fast walker.

Jeremy Wallace
09-05-2006, 06:57 PM
From now on I will try to kinder. I rarely would verbalize my anger. I woulld keep it all inside. But from now on I will try to have happy thoughts...happy thoughts no matter what.

John G.
09-05-2006, 07:07 PM
When I have to work as a waiter in my dad's diner, I'm often a dick to customers that deserve it (i.e. try to order stupid shit that's not on the menu, give you an attitude when you explain them that they can't weasel their way to paying less through creative ordering).

Chad Haden
09-05-2006, 07:12 PM
I don't have that little filter in my head that tells me what I should and shouldn't say, I get that trait from my mom. I also tend to say everything in the exact same tone of voice, I was talking to this girl once and she told me she didn't know if she should laugh or cry when I said things because she never knew if I was joking. That made me feel bad :(

Ray Kanne
09-05-2006, 07:46 PM
When I have to work as a waiter in my dad's diner, I'm often a dick to customers that deserve it (i.e. try to order stupid shit that's not on the menu, give you an attitude when you explain them that they can't weasel their way to paying less through creative ordering).
Keep doing that! That's a great way to blow of some steam.

Ray Kanne
09-05-2006, 07:49 PM
From now on I will try to kinder. I rarely would verbalize my anger. I woulld keep it all inside. But from now on I will try to have happy thoughts...happy thoughts no matter what.

That's dangerous man. Don't do that.

John G.
09-05-2006, 09:23 PM
Keep doing that! That's a great way to blow of some steam.
It's very relaxing but it seems to have an adverse effect on customer tips.

Howard Farmer
09-05-2006, 09:32 PM
Before you get mad...

pity the fool! :)

Ray Kanne
09-06-2006, 11:30 AM
It's very relaxing but it seems to have an adverse effect on customer tips.

Ah, I somehow forgot about that part of the equation. :D

Todd J
09-06-2006, 11:55 AM
Life is too short to be so hateful...right?
I think life is too short to allow pricks and motherfuckers to go about the shitheaded ways without me letting them know how shitheaded I think they are.

Ray Kanne
09-06-2006, 12:05 PM
I think life is too short to allow pricks and motherfuckers to go about the shitheaded ways without me letting them know how shitheaded I think they are.
Oh, but didn't Jeremy say he was being a bit of a bastard towards people who don't deserve it (not bastards and shitheads)? There's a big difference. While I think everyone should tell shitheads what's up I don't like people who bully people for doing nothing. Know what I mean?

Jeremy Wallace
09-06-2006, 12:18 PM
I certainly never intend to hurt someone's feelings. I have a problem with likening people I see to lees desirable look-a-likes. ie The dude that looks like Jar-Jar that I work with.

And I very rarely verbalize my thoughts. Occassionaly, I can't help it and it slips out.

I have a big problem with people that make stupid decisions. I know it sounds cliche'd but stupidity really does make me angry.

Ray Kanne
09-06-2006, 12:34 PM
I certainly never intend to hurt someone's feelings. I have a problem with likening people I see to lees desirable look-a-likes. ie The dude that looks like Jar-Jar that I work with.

And I very rarely verbalize my thoughts. Occassionaly, I can't help it and it slips out.

I have a big problem with people that make stupid decisions. I know it sounds cliche'd but stupidity really does make me angry.
It may sound like a cliche' but that's just because it's so common, I can get a bit cooked up about stupidity myself. Sometimes people make stupid desicions at work that affect me and I'll have to do more work because of it. When this kind of thing happens I can get pretty upset but I try to never yell. I just tell them why this was a mistake and ask them to work it out themselves. Obviously this doesn't always work and sometimes I loose my temper and go a bit too far. It's ok though 'cause I know I tried. :D

Bill Pissott
09-06-2006, 01:10 PM
I have a big problem with people that make stupid decisions. I know it sounds cliche'd but stupidity really does make me angry.


Man, it's a good thing you didn't know me back in the day. If I had a buck for every bad decision I made, I wouldn't have to work nowadays :)

Jeremy Wallace
09-06-2006, 01:20 PM
Man, it's a good thing you didn't know me back in the day. If I had a buck for every bad decision I made, I wouldn't have to work nowadays :)


That came out wrong. Here is a couple of examples of bad decisions that made me mad.

1. The lady I mentioned in this thread that smoked while pumping her fuel then threw the still lit cig in my direction.

2. My friend who is having MAJOR financial problems buys the fully loaded SS car instead of a vehicle that is easy on the pocket book and cheap on maintenance.

Bill Pissott
09-06-2006, 01:22 PM
That came out wrong. Here is a couple of examples of bad decisions that made me mad.

1. The lady I mentioned in this thread that smoked while pumping her fuel then threw the still lit cig in my direction.

2. My friend who is having MAJOR financial problems buys the fully loaded SS car instead of a vehicle that is easy on the pocket book and cheap on maintenance.


Yeah, those are not smart decisions to say the least. Like a certain person I know who's license was suspended and they are just days away from getting it back, yet will risk that by taking the car out and driving around. That's dumb IMHO.

Todd J
09-06-2006, 01:42 PM
Oh, but didn't Jeremy say he was being a bit of a bastard towards people who don't deserve it (not bastards and shitheads)? There's a big difference. While I think everyone should tell shitheads what's up I don't like people who bully people for doing nothing. Know what I mean?

Yep, I agree with that. I dont like to hurt people's feelings. If they dont deserve it, then that makes the sayer of mean things the prick.

I have a few years when I didnt let that shit bother me, but no I am worse thatn I used to be before I was on the piss-off wagon.

Jeremy Wallace
09-06-2006, 02:05 PM
I meant that I felt like a bastard for having such thoughts. And on occassion I would verbalize my thoughts. I always presented them in a jokingly way. But I still felt bad.

Ray Kanne
09-06-2006, 06:32 PM
I meant that I felt like a bastard for having such thoughts. And on occassion I would verbalize my thoughts. I always presented them in a jokingly way. But I still felt bad.

Aha, then you're just like me except I know they needed a real talking to and don't feel like a bastard after showing them their ways. Go on with what you were doing and don't feel bad. It's ok and very natural.

Howard Farmer
09-06-2006, 06:52 PM
If the guilt comes from within and isn't a result of torture and social/religous conditioning then it's actually your concience telling you that you did something you shouldn't have. So, to avoid that feeling, don't do it again.
If fools cause you inner turmoil then examine that and find an alternative point of view. I've learned to let them amuse me. Whatever works. Until then you're the one that suffers. Worst thing is to try to suppress it though. Rude though just isn't likely your best choice of alternatives. :)

I've had that feeling before. I dropped out and moved away from the masses. It only worked for a few years. :mad: